4 Common Mistakes Women should never make in the bedroom!!!
Mistake #1: Not initiating sex with your partner…..
I do feel sorry for men sometimes. They get a lot of stick for not being the first to introduce themselves to a girl, the first to text, the first to call….Girls, this is 2013, why can’t we pick up the phone, why can’t we go across the bar and introduce ourselves! Don’t get me wrong I like the idea of a man being a gentleman and taking control, but that doesn’t mean they have to do ALL the work!
The same applies in the bedroom. Once we’ve bagged that guy across the bar, forget about being that lady that you were and show him whose boss! Women in general worry about not being ladylike enough and worry about appearing too aggressive or pushy in the bedroom, however if we lay back and expected them to do all the ground work, it can appear lazy and like we’re not interested! And when have any of us not been interested in being in a bed with a hot man?!
Men will appreciate the confidence and the initiative of taking control! Put it this way, according to Les Parrot, professor of psychology at Seattle Pacific University and author of a new book called Crazy Good Sex, failing to initiate sex is one of the biggest mistakes women make! I’m going to listen to our friend Les here and I think you girls should do the same!!
Mistake #2: Worrying too much about your appearance….
In this day and age we (mainly women) worry about our image too much. It doesn’t help that society plasters size 0 models everywhere in sight, but let’s face it, we like our chocolate too much to ever get that skinny and why would you want to!
When you and your man are in bed, he wants to be there with you. He does not want to be with that Victoria Secrets model - ok, maybe he does, but unless he is Brad Pitt he’s got no chance! If you worry too much about your appearance, it’ll affect your confidence, resulting in a poor performance in bed. Most guys I know don’t want to lie on top of a lifeless twig, they want something to grab onto. So stop worrying about those wobbly bits and see them as something for your bloke to grab in the sack, and HAVE FUN
Mistake #3: No communication in bed….
This is a difficult one, because if you’re not an openly confident person in the bedroom, it may be quite uncomfortable to communicate about your likes and dislikes during sex. Having the confidence to communicate openly with your partner is such a benefit when it comes to sex. How are we to ever know if we’re pleasing them if we don’t actually tell them? Don’t be afraid to speak during sex, guide your partner, and even show them what you like. It’ll make sex 10 times more pleasurable next time you both jump into bed – I promise! It will also be the best confidence booster when you see your man enjoying everything you spoke about, and vice versa!
Mistake #4: Avoiding Foreplay…
It can be a lazy trait, and both sexes do it, but avoiding foreplay is a bad decision in bed! It is one of the best parts of having sex and avoiding it can take a lot of the pleasure away from the build up of the act itself. Getting your partner turned on and teasing them during foreplay is the best way to get as much satisfaction out of sex possible.
The only thing I would suggest when it comes to foreplay is DON’T BE SELFISH! I’m sure we can all agree there is nothing more off putting than seeing your partner lying there expecting you to do all the work! So don’t be that person and make sure you give as much as you take!!